Relationships: Why People Should Mind Their Business



Guy meets girl, guy says “Hey I have a really good female friend that wants to meet you to see if you’re good enough for me”. Girl runs guy over with car then flees the country moving to London to find better men because, what the hell.

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Love, Marriage, Relationships

Relationships: 5 Things I’ve Learned From Being A Newlywed

Yup! That’s me and my new husband, Michael. We got married September 21st, 2012. I don’t usually write about marriage, but I feel it’s long over-due! I wrote a while ago that I’d write a post about what I’ve learned about being married, so here you are my loyal readers! Hopefully by writing this, people will understand (from my perspective) what marriage is and isn’t. What I have anticipated to be a smooth newlywed ride has turned into a crash course on real life. That Doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing though. I’ve smiled a lot more than I have frowned, and I’ve laughed a lot more than I have cried. So for all those considering marriage, here is what I THINK you should know.

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Relationships: Sweet Things On A Small Budget

Me & My Boo!

Every one knows fall is the best time to cuddle and stay warm with your honey! Keep them close and show them you love them with these fun ideas. You don’t need to spend a lot of money to show some love!

1. Write a letter/ poem with each other, stuff that ish in a bottle and send it out to sea!!! Your loving words will float adrift forever more.

3. Surprise them with a 50 things I love about you banner! You can Jazz it up and make it pop or keep it simple, either way they’ll love it!

Mine isn’t fancy but you get the point!

4. Create Together. Nothing better than creating something wonderful with a wonderful person.

*Stenciling Pillow Cases
*Ironing Letters On Shirts
*Key Chains

5. Have a special massage night. Create coupons and put them in a basket. Each coupon will be a different area of the body, allow your partner to pick 3 coupons and get to massaging!!! (For added fun allow them to pick as many as they want, or forget the basket and give them a freebie!)

6. Blindfold taste testing. You each go to the store and buy different candies/cookies/ice cream or anything sweet. Blind fold each other and see if you guys can guess what you’re eating!

7. Bundle up and take a walk under the stars! Bring hot chocolate in a thermos and talk each others ears off.

There are thousands of money saving things to do with your sweetheart, keep an open mind and stay creative and they’ll come to you!

Celebrity Juice, Relationships

Celebrity Juice: Deelishis Is Getting A Divorce

And honestly I couldn’t care less. What I want to discuss is these women that wonder why their marriage failed or why no men take them seriously when they take pictures like this every other day and post them for the world to see.

What is wrong with these kind of women. You get married yet you show off your goodies to the world PLUS you’re a mother??

Mind you, the pictures that I posted of her are considered rated G compared to the other ones I saw.
By no means am I a hater. In order for me to be a hater there has to be something she has that I want. Granted she has a big ole booty, but I’m fine with my size. I don’t see the logic in having a booty that colossal other than looking good in photos and getting men’s attention.

If you do naturally have a booty that size nothing is wrong with that either! My point is, she’s married, she’s a mother, luckily she was chosen to swap spit with Flavor Flav and she took that window of opportunity and ran with it. Now she’s all over magazines and in night clubs with the most skin tight clothes you could find and she has a whole gallery of back shots in the bathroom.

I feel as a woman in a relationship or marriage, whatever it may be, your body is for your MAN to see and your man only. Now, if you’re going out with the girls and you got on a freakum dress ain’t nothing wrong with that. But THIS..

C’mon now. I’m not a prude, and I understand it may be a lot of money involved in taking pictures like that and hosting parties damn near naked. Be that as it may, I think by the time you say I do or become a mother you should have other financial opportunities lined up, so you wont have to do things like that. I mean, how could this not harm the relationship. You wear lingerie and revealing clothing so much around every one that’s not your husband, what kind of excitement/anticipation could he get from seeing you in your unmentionables when the whole world knows how you look in them? It’s nothing new and it sure isn’t sacred honey booboo.

God forbid your son/daughter grows up and some annoying friend of his/hers pulls out a picture of his mom like that! How traumatic for the child, and embarrassing for you.

There may be some exceptions, some men may be okay with their women stripping/ taking half naked pictures and getting paid for it. I don’t see HOW they accept other men chasing/touching/staring at parts of their woman that should be confined to their marriage, but to each his own.


Relationships: Would You Tell Your Friend If You Saw Her Boyfriend Cheating?

One time, while wasting my life on Facebook, I received a message from a “boy”. I call him a boy because a man would have the sense not to message me knowing my relationship with his baby mother (who he was still with). His baby mother WAS one of my friends in High School.

Seeing as she WAS one of my friends and was no longer at the moment, was I to feel obligated to tell her about her baby’s father actions? How he was saying he wanted to be “physical” with me and would not stop leaving me messages in my inbox?

The moral of that story is, I did NOT mention it to her. After asking a mutual male friend of ours for his opinion  I decided that it wasn’t my place, but in the past as a good friend of hers I for sure would have told her a.s.a.p. However, I felt as a woman it was my place to put HIM in his place and tell him where he could go.

If you saw your friend’s boyfriend saying/doing things with another woman that he shouldn’t have would you say something? I feel like that puts you in an odd place. Will your friend accept the information and actually confront her boyfriend? And if she does will it come back to slap you in the face? Do you put yourself in between two peoples relationship or do you watch you friend knowingly get her heart broken?

If it was happening to one of my good friends at this moment, I’d hope she’d take my observations into considerations and make her own decisions requiring her heart, but don’t hold what I said against me or let it change our relationship. In fact, she should trust me a little more. What do you think?

Facebook, Life, Love, Passwords, Relationships, Secrets

Relationships: Are Your Passwords A Secret??

Do you hold on to your password for dear life? Or would you give it to you significant other? Some say that if you don’t give it up, you’re hiding something. Others say that it’s just so they can have a little piece of privacy… here’s what I think.

It depends on what kind of “relationship” you’re in. Just talking… don’t give up the password. New relationship… don’t give up the password. Madly in love/ engaged/ married… LET IT GO YOUR DAYS OF PRIVACY ARE OVER. I don’t mean to be crude, but if you guys can take a sh*t in front of each other your “privacy” is pretty extinct. 

I never understood why some one will tell you “I love you I’d do anything for you, no secrets ok?” and then hold on to their passwords like Gollum holds on to the ring.

In a serious relationship you guys should already know the in’s and out’s if each other. Usually, the quicker you give out the passwords the person you give it to will feel less compelled to use them. If you say No, then it’s like well what the heck are you hiding??

I know you may say “well why are they asking?”. Maybe Just to be nosey, or they feel insecure, or they saw a pretty girl make a flirty comment on your picture. Just humor them and let them have it. If you’re being a good bf/gf what are you worried about?

What do you think?

Life, Love, Marriage, Relationships

Relationships: Why Should You Wait For Marriage In Your Early Twenties?

While I was searching for a photo for this post, I saw two toddlers dressed up like they were going to  get married. Which leads me to the question, how young is too young? I know our brains keep developing well into our twenties but is that a deciding factor on whether or not we should get married young? If our brains are fully developed or not? I know back in my grandma’s day (whenever that is because her age is a secret she will take with her to the grave) They used to get married really young. My grandma even got married at 19. Why is marrying young shunned upon in modern society?

I’m engaged and I’ve heard a woman tell me to “Wait, don’t rush”. I’m rushing because I’m 23 and I should wait. What exactly is it that I’m waiting for?

I’m not saying EVERYONE thinks young people shouldn’t get married although, its on the list of things some OLDER people think younger people shouldn’t be able to do. Such as:

1. Have children
2. Quit School to work full time/ Pursue a dream
3. Get Married

I’m no parent, but I am apart of the youth. I do agree that with certain young adults certain life changing events will be occur with those who aren’t ready yet. Yet, I find it odd when some one sees my engagement ring and makes a remark like “You’re engaged? You’re so young!”. I’m also living on my own, paying my own bills, and working my butt off. So age wise yes I’m young but I have the responsibilities of a mature adult. Don’t even get me started on what I’ve been through trying to get health insurance and the repairs at my house fixed by my land lord. My best friend got married young. He received the same comments I have, but what’s the real issue here?

Often adults think that people my age (early twenties) have so many fantastic things in store waiting for them. Marriage in itself is fantastic to me. Finding your soul mate, making that vow to live and die together, creating a future for a happy life. Granted, there’s going to be some storms along the way but life is always a swift wind away from knocking you down in general. Marriage as well as children and your career goals are merely an extension of ones self. Everyone does not have the same mental/physical/financial capacity to handle certain things in a mature manner. But I do. I also know my best friend does. He is married, with kids, a house, a career and happy. He’s 22. So before most adults scorn the youth for making a “grown up” decision like getting married, maybe they should look at other factors besides age. Like the individual.

It may be true that younger people have the highest divorce rate, but that doesn’t apply to the percentage of young people that do have successful marriages. Its often said that at this age you don’t know what you want. How would adults know that? I understand most of them are trying to make sure their children make the right decisions but blocking ones decision to honestly honor and cherish some one for a lifetime isn’t a decision people should worry about (for some of us).

What I’m trying to say is that it’s not impossible for two people who have faith in their love and strength within a relationship to be successful at marriage. It can be done.